Maturity - A voice of dignity

'Maturity' is something which should grow as we get into each and every steps of life. Present generation kids are mostly over-matured which is troublesome sometimes and immaturity is also a problem among some human beings. When I mean maturity as a term, here it signifies to how correctly we are reacting to the situation, how correctly we are taking decisions in our life, how much stubborn we are in our decisions and so on. In general this term shapes a human being to the great extent.

When do we feel that we are getting matured mentally? When I have taken a correct decision in my future career? Or When I am able to maintain my decency in public? Or When I am true to my family? Or When I support my family on all circumstances? Or When I am able to learn from my mistakes and correct myself? It’s very simple. When your activities and course of action yields you positive results for the above questions, it’s a sign of maturity in our self. Not only these questions, there are so many like these, which tests our mental stability. And when we are able to clear all these tests without anyone’s guidance then we are definitely matured.

Most of them feel that at present they are not fully matured. But however we are getting matured day by day. The situations and problems what we face in our daily life creates a sort of mental stability in our self which in turn guides us to take correct decisions. So unless and until we face any situation in our life, it’s difficult to plan a course of action. First time for the same situation we would have taken a wrong decision, however when we face the same situation again our mind tends to eliminate the wrong decision what we had taken first. So in this way maturity comes to play in our life.

Friends of my age used to tell me that when they stay alone, they have to take their own decisions and they have to plan for themselves everyday. So in this way they feel that they are getting matured. But were the decisions taken are correct? They have no one to guide them for the first time. Sometimes those hasty decisions will overlook its impacts.
First stage of maturity needed an emphatic listening and correct understanding of the situation or problem. The second stage needed a well planned course of action and final stage needed a fine-tuning of our activities in accordance to the situation. When we are able to cope-up our self to all the three stages, it gives us an inference of good matured thinking.

I remember one saying on maturity stated by William Stekel. It’s a good saying. This is where matured person distinguishes himself from an immature person.

‘The immature man wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mature man wants to live humanely for one’

Well educated people sometimes tend to take wrong decisions. It’s because they are not matured enough to find out the correct solution/decision. I would conclude by saying that higher level of maturity in every individual helps them to lead a disciplined, dignified and a happier life.